What's the Point of Forgiveness? ~ Denisha Workizer Ep.137

Have you ever listened to a story and been three minutes in, and you just don't get why they're telling it? Has someone ever told you a joke, and you were the only one not laughing? I know I've been there. Have you ever missed -- the point?

Today, we will look at a parable that Jesus told, which could leave us wondering, what's the point?

This is a sermon that I gave a few years back, and I believe it is quite relevant to today. In fact, I can't shake the feeling that I think we need it now more than ever. What's the point of forgiveness?

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In this episode, let's unpack a parable from Matthew 18, and I pray we don't miss the point. May we each come to realize that if we have been given forgiveness, then we have forgiveness to give. 

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[00:00:00] Denisha: Have you ever listened to someone tell a story and you just don't get why they're [00:00:05] telling it? Or has someone ever told a joke and you were the only one not [00:00:10]laughing? I know I've been there. Have you ever missed the point? [00:00:15] Today we will look at a parable that Jesus told which could leave [00:00:20] us wondering.

What's the point? This is a sermon that I gave a few years back [00:00:25] and I believe it is quite relevant to today In fact, I can't [00:00:30] shake the feeling that I think we need it now More than ever. What's the point [00:00:35] of forgiveness before we start? I want to tell you about a special [00:00:40]event coming up on October 30th.

We're hosting a live webinar open [00:00:45] to both men and women with Maurice F. Martin called forgiveness [00:00:50] in real life. If you've heard Maurice on the podcast, then you know he delivers [00:00:55] such wisdom and grace. To register for this free webinar, [00:01:00] check out Reclaim Story on our Facebook or Instagram pages. You can [00:01:05] also grab the link in the show notes.

Or just email us at connect at [00:01:10] reclaim story. com. And we'll send the link to register for free [00:01:15] directly to your inbox. In this episode, let's unpack a parable [00:01:20] from Matthew 18. And I pray we don't miss the point. [00:01:25] May we come to realize. that if we have been given forgiveness, then we [00:01:30] have forgiveness to give.

Welcome to living the reclaim life [00:01:35] podcast. I'm Denisha. We're glad you're here for conversations that revive hope, [00:01:40] inspire healing, and encourage you to live a vibrant life with Christ. So [00:01:45] grab a cup of coffee as we chat with today's guest. [00:01:50] We're taking a look at the parables that Jesus taught. And a [00:01:55] parable, it's a story told by Jesus with a specific purpose and a specific [00:02:00] point.

And the one thing, there's always something in there that we can apply to [00:02:05] our lives, and the one thing that we don't want to do is miss the point. So [00:02:10] last week, Glenn gave us three questions that he kind of walked through in his [00:02:15] parable and answered as he went along. And we're going to do the same this morning.

So [00:02:20] the first question is what is the context? And the second question is what [00:02:25]question is being asked? And the third is, what is the outlandish thing in the [00:02:30] story? Because in parables, there's something, there's a plot twist at some point. There's some [00:02:35] point that makes you think, this was going this way, and suddenly it turned, and that was unexpected.

[00:02:40] And so we're gonna look at those three questions today as we look at the parable of the unforgiving servant [00:02:45] in Matthew 18. And this is a time that Jesus taught about forgiveness. [00:02:50] And my hope for today is that we can each come to realize that if [00:02:55] we've been given forgiveness, then we have forgiveness to give.

And, [00:03:00] funny story, uh, for my family, uh, so we have an almost 13 year old, so we have a [00:03:05] 12 year old, a 10 year old, and a 4 year old right now, for another month. And then those numbers [00:03:10] change. But, uh, so one day, uh, My oldest, my oldest [00:03:15] son, he loves Legos. You guys all familiar with Legos? Those like building blocks, right?

[00:03:20] And you can make everything from like a little farm set to like a huge, like [00:03:25]millennium Falcon. Okay. And so my son loves these and he will spend [00:03:30] hours sitting and assembling these using an instruction manual that I really think was [00:03:35] supposed to be for an engineer. And he will put these together, and then he'll [00:03:40] carefully take that, that piece of art that it is now, and he will put it up on his shelf [00:03:45] in his room to be displayed very proudly.

And so one day, our littlest one, [00:03:50] Matthew, he caught Tyler in the living room playing with one of his toys. [00:03:55] And it was ugly. Matthew was not happy about this, that [00:04:00] Tyler had one of his toys. And so our three year old at the time began to do the ugly cry [00:04:05] on his brother, where like tears shoot out sideways that they're so upset that they've just this [00:04:10] injustice of somebody else playing with one of their toys.

And so they're [00:04:15] having this, this, you know, little fight here over this toy and we sit him down and Tyler [00:04:20] says, oh, I'm sorry, buddy. And Matthew says, It's okay. [00:04:25] And so we think, all right, well, in his little three year old mind, like we're pretty [00:04:30] sure he's got it. Okay. He's accepted the apology and we can move on with our day.[00:04:35]

Till about an hour later, and we hear all this commotion going on in Tyler's room, and we're [00:04:40]like, what is going on in there? So we walk in and we realize that Matthew has [00:04:45] gotten up on his tippy toes. He has reached as far as he can into his [00:04:50] brother's shelves of these prized pieces of art that he has designed, and he's wrapped [00:04:55] his arms around them, brought them down, and began disassembling them on his floor.[00:05:00]

Because retaliation seemed like a really awesome idea at the time. And so [00:05:05] we realized in that moment that Matthew had missed the point of forgiveness. [00:05:10] That he did not let it go, right? He was out to retaliate against his older [00:05:15] brother. And you know, although this is a story of two siblings, which we somewhat [00:05:20] expect to quarrel with each other from time to time, that's like a rite of passage, I [00:05:25] think that from the youngest to the oldest of us, that we know what that feels like [00:05:30] too.

Because many of us have been through something similar. [00:05:35] Maybe, maybe someone owes us money and that makes us angry. [00:05:40] Maybe somebody that we love and care about has said some things about [00:05:45] us that have led to us feeling betrayed. [00:05:50] Or maybe it's a parent or a child that's done something that's caused you [00:05:55] hurt.

And we can tell ourselves, I'm good, it's okay. But [00:06:00] sometimes if we're honest, we aren't okay. So [00:06:05] let's take a look together this morning at one of the times that Jesus talks about [00:06:10]forgiveness. And what we're gonna see is that the parable that we're looking at today, it [00:06:15]begins with Peter asking Jesus a question.

And he asked Jesus, how many [00:06:20] times should I forgive someone? And Jesus responds back with a story, [00:06:25] and to summarize that, he tells a story of a master and a servant. Let's And the [00:06:30] servant owed the master a lot of money. And the servant began to [00:06:35] beg him for mercy. You know, please. And so the servant, or the master comes [00:06:40] back and he says, Alright, I'll forgive you.

Well, we'll wash this clean. I forgive you. [00:06:45] The servant goes out on the street and bumps into a guy who owes him a little bit of money. And you would think [00:06:50] he would give what he had been given, but he didn't. He didn't. And we're gonna, we're gonna [00:06:55] explore that a little bit more here this morning. Why don't you go ahead and turn in your Bibles to Matthew [00:07:00] 18?

And as you turn there, let's answer our first [00:07:05] question. What is the context? In other words, what was going on at this [00:07:10] time in history? And here's a little fun fact. What You know, we're [00:07:15] led to believe that Jesus told this parable in a ten day period between the Jewish New [00:07:20] Year and the Day of Atonement.

And those days were designed for seeking [00:07:25] forgiveness between individuals. And so the time, it was focused on the [00:07:30] necessity to forgive one another so that they could approach God without having bitterness in their hearts. [00:07:35] And so when you look at that, you think, okay, so [00:07:40] vertical forgiveness at this time period depended on horizontal [00:07:45] forgiveness.

And so you could say at this time in history that like [00:07:50] forgiveness was in the air, okay? Now, um, We can't just soundbite [00:07:55] this one parable. We can't take this one parable and just look at that outside of what's going on around [00:08:00] it. So if we go back into verse 10, which is two stories prior to the parable we're looking at [00:08:05] today, we will see that Jesus taught on the lost sheep.

And that's the story where [00:08:10] there's a hundred sheep and one wanders away and the shepherd leaves the 99 to go after the [00:08:15] hundred. And that demonstrates the value of human life to [00:08:20] God. And then after that, Jesus teaches about the process. What do you do when your [00:08:25] brother offends you or wrongs you? What do you do with that?

So Jesus then goes from the [00:08:30] lost sheep into that, which leads us into the parable that we're looking at today. So there's a [00:08:35] flowing connection that Jesus is talking about forgiveness and relationships. [00:08:40] So let's dig into the parable that I described earlier. It's Matthew chapter 18, and we're gonna [00:08:45] start in verse 21.

Then Peter came up to him and said, Lord, [00:08:50] how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven [00:08:55] times? Now let's look at that for a second. So the answer to our [00:09:00] second question, what question is being asked, is Peter's. It's how many times [00:09:05]do I forgive someone who has wronged me?

Peter's basically asking, [00:09:10] when is enough enough? When, when can I be done with him? Now, [00:09:15] Peter mentions seven times, and there's significance in that, because at this time, the [00:09:20] rabbis were teaching people that you forgive three times. And so Peter's thinking, [00:09:25]I'm going to up this. As I talk to Jesus about forgiveness, I'm going to up this, and I'm [00:09:30] going to say like, you know, seven, like more than double.

And seven was considered to be the [00:09:35] perfect number. And I think Peter represents what could be all of us at [00:09:40] times. See, he wants a rule to follow. This person wounds me [00:09:45] and I want to know when is it okay that I cut them off? [00:09:50] He wanted a rule over loving the person And see if you [00:09:55] have to ask how many times should I forgive then you might miss the point of forgiveness [00:10:00] Peter's missing the point and jesus wants him to understand that and [00:10:05]peter's trying to get bonus points, but jesus is about to raise the bar Let's look at what jesus says in [00:10:10] verse 22 Jesus said to him, I do not say to you seven [00:10:15] times, but seventy seven times.

Oh Rabbis are teaching [00:10:20] three times. Jesus just said seventy seven times. Now raise your hand if your [00:10:25] Bible says seventy seven times. Okay, now raise your hand [00:10:30] if your Bible says seventy times seven. Okay. Now, [00:10:35] here's the neat thing about that. It could be either one. Greek translators agree that it [00:10:40] could be either one, but that it's not a literal number, that it is an [00:10:45] unimaginable number, that it symbolizes unlimited forgiveness, is what [00:10:50] Jesus is trying to say.

And, you know, poor Peter. He's trying to give the perfect answer with the perfect number, [00:10:55]seven. And I would have loved to have seen Peter's face As [00:11:00] Jesus opens up this, that tells the rest of this parable, or begins this parable here, let's [00:11:05] look at verse 23. So we're in Matthew 18 verse [00:11:10] 23.[00:11:15] [00:11:20] [00:11:25] [00:11:30]

How much is 10, 000 talents? 10, 000 [00:11:35] talents was the equivalent of 150, 000 years of [00:11:40] earnings. That is a lot of money, right? And [00:11:45] so, what's being said, to put this into perspective, the total tax [00:11:50] bill for the region of Palestine to the Romans was less than 1, [00:11:55] 000 talents per year. And for that amount of money, they had infrastructure, they had protection, [00:12:00] they had roads for that.

So what Jesus is trying to say when he chose [00:12:05] 10, 000 talents in this parable is he's trying to drive home the enormity [00:12:10] of this man's debt. And in Bible times, there were serious [00:12:15]consequences for not being able to pay your debt. You would be thrown into prison for life. [00:12:20]You would be sold into slavery to, to, to make back that money.

And so could your [00:12:25] family, your wife, your children, could be put into slavery in order to pay back that money. So there [00:12:30] was a serious consequence here. Now let's read on in verse [00:12:35] 26. So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, Have [00:12:40] patience with me and I will pay you everything. And out of pity for him, the [00:12:45] master of that servant released him and forgave the debt.

[00:12:50] Just like that, he was wiped clean. He had been completely forgiven. One minute [00:12:55]he's heading to jail and his family is about to be sold into slavery, and the next minute he is [00:13:00]completely free. His hopeless circumstance could only [00:13:05] have been fixed by the grace of his master. Can you imagine how he felt at the end of the [00:13:10] day?

That was a great day, right? He had total freedom from debt, not [00:13:15] going to jail, walked out completely free, instead of being a slave who had no [00:13:20] value until they had earned their value back. He got to [00:13:25] walk away a free man. And imagine being in the audience at that time, you're probably [00:13:30] thinking, Wow, that master is great.

Like, I wish my master would do [00:13:35] that. Like, forgive all debts. But now get ready, because here comes our [00:13:40] outlandish thing. This guy's totally free from debt and leaves to go home, and let's see what [00:13:45] happens next in verse 28. But when that same servant went out, he [00:13:50]found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and seizing him, he [00:13:55] began to choke him, saying, Pay what you owe.

So this fellow servant fell [00:14:00] down and pleaded with him, have patience with me and I will pay you. He [00:14:05] refused and went and put him in prison until he could pay the debt. [00:14:10] Now, the justice inside of us has to kind of rise up at this [00:14:15] moment, right? And go, what? We were just celebrating your victory. We were just so happy you [00:14:20] got released.

Why would you not forgive him? Now let's [00:14:25] put that That 100 denarii and a perspective to the 10, 000 talents. 100 [00:14:30] denarii was four months wages. Where 10, 000 talents was [00:14:35]150, 000 years of wages. So that's [00:14:40] pretty serious. Like he was forgiven of a lot and yet he did not give what he [00:14:45] got. Instead he had him, held him accountable for the very thing that he had been [00:14:50] forgiven of.

Now let's finish the parable in verse 31. [00:14:55] When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed. And [00:15:00] then they reported to their master all that had taken place. Then the master [00:15:05] summoned him and said to him, You wicked servant, I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded [00:15:10] with me.

And should you not have had mercy on your fellow servant as I had mercy on [00:15:15] you? And in his anger, his master delivered him to the jailers until he could pay all [00:15:20] the debt. So also my heavenly father will do to each one of you if you do [00:15:25] not forgive your brother from your heart. So the fellow servants went to the [00:15:30] master.

Can you imagine them in the crowd? They're thinking like we wanted you to get this right. [00:15:35]The crowd is watching and they saw the reality. They saw that injustice [00:15:40] as we saw when we read it. But the man, the servant who would not forgive, what he [00:15:45] saw was the amount of money that was owed to him. He saw that he had been a victim.[00:15:50]

And so our third question this morning, what is the outlandish thing that [00:15:55] has happened? It's outlandish that someone would be forgiven of 10, 000 talents [00:16:00] and would not return the favor by forgiving someone of a hundred denarii. [00:16:05] It's also outlandish that the guy who had been given of so much just turned around and began to [00:16:10] choke and flog this guy and send him to prison for this.[00:16:15]

So where does our context, our context is that this was a season [00:16:20] of forgiveness. The question being asked, how many times should I forgive? [00:16:25] And the outlandish thing that happened in the story, our plot twist, where does it all [00:16:30] drive us to? What was the point that Jesus was making? [00:16:35] Jesus was telling us that if you have been given [00:16:40] forgiveness, then you have forgiveness to give.

[00:16:45] And that sounds easy, right? I mean, okay. It's like if I've been given money, then I [00:16:50]have money to give. I get it. Okay. But when [00:16:55] we take a moment and we think about someone that we [00:17:00] could forgive, it's hard and it's complicated. [00:17:05] And I can imagine that most of us have that situation or that [00:17:10] person in our lives.

And I'm going to share with you one of mine. About 13 [00:17:15] years ago, I had left my corporate job in jewelry to pursue starting my [00:17:20] own business with one of my friends. And, um, my husband and I had just had our first baby [00:17:25] and so things were tight. Um, finances were really tight. And when you start your own business, you know, we didn't have [00:17:30] an investor or a huge pile of cash sitting around.

So we started that [00:17:35] business with our own money. And, what we did was people would order [00:17:40] jewelry from us, and then we would get payment. It was very important to get payment before, you know, we [00:17:45] sent the jewelry so that we could pay our suppliers. Because otherwise, that was our personal [00:17:50] responsibility. And so one day, I get a phone call from a friend of mine.

And I've, I'd worked with [00:17:55] him for about 10 years. And so I get this phone call, and he says, Hey, I'm gonna Order some [00:18:00] jewelry from you and I thought great over the course of about three to four months this friend He [00:18:05] ended up buying about 20, 000 worth of jewelry from us And then one day on [00:18:10] a Wednesday, he calls me and he says hey, Denisha Listen, um, I need a diamond [00:18:15] by Friday and you don't have to do anything.

There's no customizing. I just need the loose stone [00:18:20] Would you drop ship it to me? He was out of state and then I'll send you a check [00:18:25] So I thought for a second and 10 years of friendship of history passed before me. And I [00:18:30] thought, oh, okay. And then I, you know, he just did all this business with us in a really [00:18:35] short amount of time.

So, okay. All right. So I went ahead on Wednesday and drop ship the diamond and [00:18:40] he got it on Friday. And this was a 5, 000 diamond. [00:18:45] So Friday came and he got the diamond and. Monday came and I didn't get a [00:18:50] check. Tuesday, Wednesday, a week goes by and I had not gotten a check. [00:18:55] So of course this whole time I'm making excuses for him, right?

I'm starting [00:19:00] to say things like, well, you know, he's probably busy. He probably just forgot. Oh, I'm [00:19:05] sure he'll return my call soon. But every excuse I made was invalid. [00:19:10] So I had to come to this realization that my friend, whom [00:19:15] I had known for 10 years, had stolen from me. And then I realized it didn't just [00:19:20] stop with me, because he, a woman he had had some dealings with as well, he had [00:19:25] conned her out of her home and her entire life savings, and she wasn't [00:19:30] the only one either.

All of this added up to the tune of a million dollars for [00:19:35] this guy. And, and, uh, I found it a little ironic that [00:19:40] when I, I looked up this story, um, online and, and it said that when he was in [00:19:45] court, he said, I will pay everything I owe. Does that sound familiar? [00:19:50] I thought, wow, that's the parable right there.

And so [00:19:55] I realized that I wasn't going to get a dime from him and that he was in a lot of trouble. And I [00:20:00] was left with the consequence of trusting him and him stealing from [00:20:05] me. So as a business owner, The only option I had was to take my [00:20:10] personal credit card and pay our vendor 5, [00:20:15] 000. So I was weighed down in that moment.

I was [00:20:20] weighed down with feelings of betrayal and anger and shock, and I wanted [00:20:25]justice. The last thing that I wanted to do, to be honest, was to forgive [00:20:30] him. So why forgive? [00:20:35] See, when we're wronged, it's hard. It's really [00:20:40] hard. But if we don't choose to forgive, it hurts us. [00:20:45] When we hold on to the anger and the bitterness and the [00:20:50]judgment, it is hurting us, not them.

When [00:20:55] a wound is created, it festers, and it can occupy our thoughts. It [00:21:00] can affect our actions. It can determine our future responses to people and [00:21:05] situations. And ultimately, we are the ones who pay the price.[00:21:10]

In this [00:21:15] moment, I have a great illustration and a picture from nature, [00:21:20] um, of how, how these wounds fester inside of us. And it's the [00:21:25] relationship between a water buffalo and a Komodo dragon. And it's not a [00:21:30] happy relationship. See, this Komodo dragon, this giant lizard, really just wants to eat [00:21:35] this, this water buffalo.

But the water buffalo is 1, 200 pounds. And the [00:21:40] lizard is, the Komodo dragon is 200 pounds. But here's how it works. [00:21:45] So the Komodo dragon bites the water buffalo in the leg. [00:21:50]And the, the, to the water buffalo, the dragon's like annoying, right? It's annoying. It's, it's [00:21:55] a, it's something it thinks, you know, ouch.

And it kind of, you know, kicks it off and goes on about its way. But what it [00:22:00] doesn't know is that that Komodo dragon has unleashed a venom that is slowly [00:22:05] going into its bloodstream and will kill the water buffalo. So the Komodo dragon [00:22:10] begins to follow it. Knowing eventually what will happen. [00:22:15] And it can be like up to a week even.

And so think about how that water buffalo feels during [00:22:20] that week. It gets a wound, okay, on Monday, say, and Tuesday it's like, huh, [00:22:25] I'm a little slower than I was yesterday. By Wednesday, I'm not feeling so hot. [00:22:30] And by Thursday, wow, I'm, I'm kind of out of it. And he may look behind him and think, hey, why is that guy [00:22:35] following me?

By Friday, he's dead. By Friday, like, he's gone, and the Komodo [00:22:40] dragon and all of his friends are having a feast. And I think that's a great [00:22:45] example of the effects of wounds in our lives. You know, how many [00:22:50] of you have had bitterness or anger? [00:22:55] Fester inside of you. You know, we have a choice, [00:23:00] we have a choice to forgive, which is like the antidote for the venom.[00:23:05]

Or, we can hold on to it and we can carry that venom around with us and [00:23:10] let it course through us. So what weighs you down? [00:23:15] Perhaps as we're talking this morning about forgiveness, [00:23:20] maybe a face came to mind. Maybe a memory of a [00:23:25] time when something was done that, that, that wronged you, a memory that was stirred.[00:23:30]

Maybe it was the person who cut you off on the way to church this morning. [00:23:35] Maybe it was someone who critiques your parenting choices. [00:23:40] Or maybe it's deeper, maybe it's something that you've been holding on to for a long [00:23:45] time. What I want us to understand is that forgiving [00:23:50] someone is an act of faith that brings us freedom and restores the [00:23:55] value to that person.

So how do we get that? How do we [00:24:00] get that freedom? I want to spend the rest of our time this morning talking [00:24:05] about three steps to forgiveness. And the first step is to [00:24:10] give what we've been given. Ephesians tells us be kind to one another, [00:24:15] tenderhearted, forgiving one another as God and Christ forgave you.[00:24:20]

And see, forgiveness, it's not based on a rule. You know, Peter asked how many times, [00:24:25] when is enough enough? When can I cut these people off? It's not [00:24:30] based on a rule. Forgiveness is a response to God's love. [00:24:35] See, Peter had unlimited, he had been given unlimited [00:24:40]forgiveness. Therefore, he could give forgiveness unlimited.[00:24:45]

But see, God never asks us to do something that he won't [00:24:50] empower us to do. His grace and his love is what [00:24:55] allows us to forgive others. We can give what we've [00:25:00] been given. Step two is to make a [00:25:05] choice. Forgiveness is a choice, and friends, it is something that we sometimes [00:25:10] have to do over and over and over again.

Sometimes even for the same [00:25:15] wrong that's been done. But I want to encourage you to give yourself the [00:25:20] grace to do that. And know that making the choice to forgive [00:25:25] does not mean that you are saying what they did was okay. And [00:25:30] nor is it giving them permission to hurt you again. That's not [00:25:35] forgiveness. By forgiving, you are choosing to cancel the debt, and you are making the [00:25:40] choice to not get even.

And as you make that choice, it will [00:25:45] begin to change you, and the anger, the bitterness, will no longer [00:25:50] control you. For God has forgiven us, and we can make a [00:25:55] choice to forgive others. So our first step to forgiveness is to give what we've been [00:26:00] given. The second step is to make a choice, and the third step,[00:26:05]

the third step is to [00:26:10] allow for the process. And I want to give you an example of someone who made a [00:26:15] choice. Leonardo da Vinci, he is one of the [00:26:20] outstanding intellects of our history, and he was a great draftsman, engineer, [00:26:25] thinker, artist. And there are several stories surrounding the penning of the [00:26:30] Last Supper.

And I want to share one of them with you today. [00:26:35] Just before Leonardo began working on that painting, he had a [00:26:40] quarrel with a fellow painter. And he was mad. It was [00:26:45] described as a violent quarrel. And Leonardo was so enraged and [00:26:50] bitter that he decided to paint the face of this fellow painter whom he had fought with onto [00:26:55] the face of Judas.

Now, if your face is [00:27:00] going to go down in history, that is probably the last person that you want it going down in history [00:27:05] on, right? Judas was the guy that betrayed Christ. [00:27:10]So the face of Judas was the first face that he had finished, and [00:27:15] everyone who saw it could easily recognize that that was the face of the fellow painter.

Bet that [00:27:20] stirred some conversation during that time. And he was taking out his [00:27:25]revenge and his anger for all to see. But [00:27:30] when he came to paint the face of Christ, [00:27:35]something was holding him back. Something was frustrating him, [00:27:40] and, and he couldn't, he couldn't go forward. He couldn't make progress. [00:27:45] And he finally came to the conclusion that the thing that was [00:27:50] holding him back and frustrating him was the fact that he had painted his enemy on the face of Judas.[00:27:55]

Therefore he painted over the face of Judas and began to [00:28:00] paint the face of Jesus, at this time with the success that history has [00:28:05] acclaimed. You cannot at one time [00:28:10] and the same time be painting the features of Christ into your own [00:28:15] life. and paint a face with the [00:28:20]colors of venom and hatred. We have a [00:28:25] choice to make and we can choose forgiveness.[00:28:30]

Step three is allow for the process. The definition of the [00:28:35] word process is a series of actions that produce something that lead to a particular [00:28:40] result. A series of actions towards forgiveness could [00:28:45] be talking with a trusted friend or a counselor. It could [00:28:50] be praying and giving the Holy Spirit permission to accomplish in us what we can't [00:28:55] do ourselves.

See, it's our choice to step out in [00:29:00] faith, but it's His grace to get us through the process. [00:29:05] See, going through that process will result in freedom and transformation [00:29:10] in us. When my friend stole from me and I was 5, [00:29:15] 000 in debt because of my decision to trust him and his decision to [00:29:20] steal from me, every month I had to write that check on the credit card.

[00:29:25] Every single month I had to do that. And I had to allow for that [00:29:30] process to go over and over again to let it go. [00:29:35] And I have to tell you it's not because I wanted to in that moment. [00:29:40] It was a cycle that I had to complete. [00:29:45] I wanted to bury my emotions. I wanted to hide them and, and maybe say some not so [00:29:50] nice stuff about him to people.

And I was mad. And, but you know what? I [00:29:55] couldn't do that because every month I couldn't even bury the emotions because every single month [00:30:00] that bill kept coming. And every single month I had to write the check on that credit [00:30:05] card. But because of the process, [00:30:10]over time, God helped me to forgive him. It started [00:30:15] with an act of faith, but over time, the sting began to be less [00:30:20] painful.

And eventually, I could actually think of him without getting [00:30:25] upset. And I remember, I actually remember the two billing cycles that this began to happen inside my [00:30:30] heart. I began to acknowledge that he was a person that God had also [00:30:35] loved, and he wasn't just a crooked cheat that I had labeled him [00:30:40] as for a while.

I begin to have compassion for him and realize [00:30:45] that he was acting out of his own brokenness. And this [00:30:50] began the healing process in me. See, forgiving someone is an act of faith [00:30:55] that brings us freedom and restores value to the person. See, [00:31:00] I found freedom when I released him. What [00:31:05] does freedom look like?

Freedom looks like being released from [00:31:10] slavery. From the things that hold us captive. [00:31:15] Freedom looks like not replaying the hurt over and over in our mind. [00:31:20] And freedom looks like not getting even. [00:31:25] Freedom looks like understanding that just as Jesus gave his life for us, [00:31:30] that he did it for them too.[00:31:35]

Which we begin to see the person [00:31:40] instead of the hurt that they've caused. And you know, this is hard for every one of us, right? [00:31:45] But we want freedom. That's something that we can all have. And I want [00:31:50] to encourage you to make the choice to forgive others, [00:31:55] that you may set them free, and in doing so that you will come to experience freedom for [00:32:00] yourself.

And let's not give up. It's a process, [00:32:05] okay? Let's make the choice to respond to the love and the forgiveness of God, and [00:32:10] that it's already been given to us, and give away that which we've received. [00:32:15] And remember that we are all in process together. We're all together in [00:32:20]this. And that freedom is for all of us.

I'm gonna pray for us this [00:32:25] morning. Dear God, I just, Lord, I thank you so [00:32:30] much, um, for your example of forgiveness that you've given us. Lord, I [00:32:35] thank you that we can give what we've been given, and I thank you for all the forgiveness that [00:32:40] you've given us. God, give us, help us to be brave, Lord, as we [00:32:45] make the choice to forgive.

And Lord, we thank you for your grace to walk out the [00:32:50] process. Lord, we thank you and we love you. It's in [00:32:55] Jesus name we pray. Amen. Friends, I am not saying [00:33:00] forgiveness is easy, but it is definitely worth it. And I [00:33:05] wonder if the Holy Spirit laid someone on your heart as you listen today. If [00:33:10] he did, I encourage you to extend forgiveness to them, because when [00:33:15] you release them, it is you that finds freedom.

And it's our choice to [00:33:20] step out in faith to forgive someone, but it is his grace that gets us through the [00:33:25] process. And that doesn't mean that what they did was okay. It [00:33:30]actually means that what they did was so wrong that Jesus, God's [00:33:35] only son, had to come to earth, die on a cross, and rise again [00:33:40] in order to cover the wrong that they did.

Wow. May [00:33:45] each of us come to realize that if we have been given forgiveness, then we [00:33:50] have forgiveness to give. Thank you for joining us. And if you would like someone to pray [00:33:55] with you, please email us at connect at reclaimed story. com [00:34:00] and we'll see you same time, same place next week. Thanks for [00:34:05] listening.

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