Women Of The Bible: From Pain To Purpose ~ Valerie McMahon Ep. 131

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[00:00:00] Denisha: Have you ever felt alone, wondering if you're the only one walking [00:00:05]through life's challenges? The truth is that although the details of your [00:00:10] particular story are unique, the emotions, hurt, pain, suffering, and [00:00:15] loss in our stories are something we can all relate to. Even the women [00:00:20] in Jesus's day experienced what we as women experienced.[00:00:25]

Over the next two episodes, we're going to look at Reclaim Stories in the Bible, [00:00:30] and as we dive into their stories, we pray that their faith [00:00:35] encourages you in your life's challenges. Before we get started, our [00:00:40] passion at Reclaim Stories is to help you heal from the pain of your past so that your story [00:00:45] becomes your strength.

In a hustle culture, we tend to stuff our pain and [00:00:50] move on to the next thing that life throws at us. But what if? There was a safe [00:00:55] place to work through the pain and disappointments that life has thrown your [00:01:00] way. I want to invite you to join us for reclaimed life group. [00:01:05] These 12 week intensive online small groups are led by qualified [00:01:10] Professionals where you will be with other women healing together in community So [00:01:15] if you're ready to begin or continue your healing journey join us on our website By going to [00:01:20] our website at reclaim story.

com, click on the blue button, fill out the [00:01:25] interest form, and we'll be sure to get right back with you. We hope you'll join us on the [00:01:30] journey of healing starting this August. In the meantime, today, let's [00:01:35] talk about women of the Bible. and their reclaimed stories. [00:01:40] Welcome to living the reclaim life podcast.

I'm Denisha. We're glad you're here for [00:01:45] conversations that revive hope, inspire healing, and encourage you to live a vibrant [00:01:50] life with Christ. So grab a cup of coffee as we chat with today's guest.[00:01:55]

Last month, we talked [00:02:00] about tips for reading your Bible and we had Keith Farrin, your [00:02:05] Bible coach on the podcast. He did such an amazing job at giving us tips on [00:02:10] how to read our Bible and helping us go from I should to I want to read my [00:02:15] Bible. Well, guys, today, Valerie and I are going to pick up from that theme of how to read [00:02:20] our Bible.

And for the month of July, we're going to be talking about women of the Bible. The Bible. So [00:02:25] we're really excited about that. And today, Valerie is going to share with us about a [00:02:30] specific reclaimed story of a woman in the Bible, which happens to be one of my [00:02:35] favorites as well. Applying what we learned last month from Keith about reading the [00:02:40] Bible relationally and not just informationally.

I think we're going to be able to see how [00:02:45] Jesus interacted and related to the woman of the Bible that we're going to talk about [00:02:50] today in the same ways he wants to interact and relate to us. So Valerie, I am [00:02:55] so excited to do this. We haven't done an episode in a while together. 

[00:02:58] Valerie: I know. I was very [00:03:00] excited about this, but also it's going to be so good.

And that is so my hope. You just mentioned, [00:03:05] Danisha, about being able to relate to the stories in the Bible. And I [00:03:10] think it is so important because The Bible was written a long time ago, and [00:03:15] sometimes we can feel like, but is my story, does my story [00:03:20] matter? And we're going to see that today. And I am going to share a [00:03:25] lot about my story and why the Bleeding Woman story And I think that's what resonates with [00:03:30] me so much because Denise, there was a period of time that [00:03:35] I went through a lot of struggle and it was a long struggle.

And we're going to dig into our [00:03:40] story a little bit more, but my hope is that in reading about Jesus encounter [00:03:45] with this woman and the transformation that came after her encounter with [00:03:50] Jesus, that that's going to bring hope to the women listening because it brought [00:03:55]hope to my story. 

[00:03:56] Denisha: Valerie, why don't you walk us through the story of the bleeding woman and [00:04:00] how it encouraged you when you were going through that hard time?

[00:04:05] Sure. 

[00:04:05] Valerie: Well, there was a period of several years where [00:04:10] I was so desperate for answers and maybe you all can [00:04:15] relate. Maybe you're sitting there right now waiting for a diagnosis or. [00:04:20] Waiting for a relationship to be reconciled, maybe you're waiting for your [00:04:25] financial situation to improve or for that prodigal child to come home.

[00:04:30] I was dealing, Danisha, with unexplained health issues and it [00:04:35] produced a lot of fear and weariness. I was spending so much time [00:04:40] going from doctor to doctor, spending money, trying different [00:04:45] It was so frustrating because I still had no answers. And honestly, there was not much [00:04:50] relief. And I even felt like sometimes it was getting worse.

And [00:04:55] I remember during this season of struggle, opening my [00:05:00] Bible and reading the story of the bleeding woman. And I want to take us to [00:05:05] Mark chapter five. It's also in Luke, but in the gospel of Mark chapter five, [00:05:10] we start reading her story. And you know what, Denisha, this is why I could relate. She was a [00:05:15] woman.

Desperate for answers. And this is what it says. It says a [00:05:20] woman was there who had been subject to bleeding for 12 years [00:05:25] and she had suffered a great deal under the care of many doctors and had spent all she [00:05:30] had yet instead of getting better, she grew worse. Right there was the point of [00:05:35] connection for me.

And we talk about this even at reclaim story with our stories of transformation, which [00:05:40] are so powerful. We can read another woman's story and we may think, wow, my [00:05:45]circumstances. aren't the same, but we can relate to what's [00:05:50] behind the circumstances, what we go through in the middle of those circumstances.

We can relate to [00:05:55] desperation. We can relate to weariness. We can relate to [00:06:00]isolation. You know, this woman was isolated for 12 years [00:06:05] because in that time, Anytime a woman bleeding, they had [00:06:10] to be isolated. They were considered unclean. So imagine this [00:06:15] woman's desperation of 12 years of unexplained bleeding, feeling isolated [00:06:20] from society, from community, Denisha, from fellowship, from [00:06:25] just belonging.

And honestly, for me, it was a period of 10 years for [00:06:30] me where I just had unexplained health issues that were triggered in my third [00:06:35] pregnancy and I was triggered by noise. So imagine like going to church [00:06:40] and you know, I still get emotional about it because one of my favorite ways of connecting with God is [00:06:45] worship.

And so loud noise. I'm going [00:06:50] to go to church for like 20 minutes and then had [00:06:55] to go home and just crash. So I really relate to this woman of feeling like [00:07:00] nobody understands what I'm going through. Nobody knows what I'm going through. There's [00:07:05] so 

[00:07:05] Denisha: many things in there that you said that I can really relate to also without having 10 [00:07:10] years of health issues, but so many other things as well.

The isolation piece, the, I [00:07:15] mean, I can't imagine not being touched, not since she spent all she had. So she didn't [00:07:20] have money, but then she encounters. Jesus. 

[00:07:24] Valerie: Yes. And [00:07:25] we continue reading in the text in Mark 5, 27, it says when [00:07:30] she heard about Jesus and Denisha, you have some [00:07:35] wonderful facts to include that help us, right?

Understand the context here. [00:07:40] Jesus had been traveling for a while and preaching and doing miracles. So she heard about [00:07:45] Jesus, but she wasn't right there with him. 

[00:07:49] Denisha: She was [00:07:50] 30 miles away where she lived and where Jesus was was 30 [00:07:55] miles and that's not like Remember she had no money. Yeah, it's not she couldn't go get an uber [00:08:00] or a donkey at the time or a cart She couldn't buy [00:08:05] transportation to help her get there.

So she had 30 miles to go Just 

[00:08:08] Valerie: imagine [00:08:10] traveling that distance, being as sick as she was, but this is what I love [00:08:15] about this verse. It says, when she heard about Jesus, and of course, when she saw him, she [00:08:20] came up behind him. And this is what I love is that it is [00:08:25] such a great example. Of what it looks like to have faith, [00:08:30] even in desperation, it is so hard when you just feel like, [00:08:35] literally like I've tried everything.

What is going to make the difference? But [00:08:40] she took the risk. And I think about faith, like really [00:08:45] faith is risk, right? We are trusting in something that we [00:08:50] cannot see. I've never considered myself a person that takes a lot of risk, but [00:08:55] if you're a believer, like faith is risky. She was choosing to put her faith in [00:09:00] what she had heard about this man.

And so I love that verse that with the last remnant [00:09:05] of faith she had, she came out of where she was [00:09:10] and she pushed her way through this crowd. I mean, right. Jesus always had people [00:09:15] around him, like bumping up against him. And she. I thought if [00:09:20] I just touch his clothes, not even speak to him, but just [00:09:25] touch the hem of his garment, I will be healed.

[00:09:30] The faith she had of believing that she will be healed. But you know, [00:09:35] Denisha, I know that I've sat with these questions and maybe our [00:09:40] listeners are having the same question, but what if I'm struggling to [00:09:45] even reach out to even have, like, Even that little bit of faith [00:09:50] to even try again. Like what if I have that faith [00:09:55] and my situation still doesn't change.

Sometimes I ask yourself, like, what is keeping me [00:10:00] from reaching out? And maybe you guys have had these [00:10:05] questions sitting in your desperate situations. I know I have those 10 years. I [00:10:10] asked, okay, I've tried everything. How will this be different? [00:10:15] What if nothing changes? Or how about this? Everybody else in my [00:10:20] life has let me down.

How is Jesus going to be different? And does [00:10:25] God even care about me? Right? Does God even see me? I don't know about you, [00:10:30] Denisha, but I know I have had those questions. I still have those questions even now sometimes. [00:10:35]

[00:10:35] Denisha: I think that's so true. And in the isolation, in the lies that [00:10:40] can creep in, in isolation also, those things can keep us from reaching [00:10:45] out to Jesus.

And one of the things I think about in that is shame. Yes. [00:10:50] Right. The voice of shame says there's something wrong with me. Like I [00:10:55] am unclean. I am unwanted. That's what shame says to us where [00:11:00] really it's, here's our situation, but shame turns it on. This is who you are. [00:11:05] Yeah. And we start to think, well, what did I do to deserve this?

And perhaps this woman was [00:11:10] thinking the same things. Yeah. But there's a scripture in Hebrews. I love that shatters [00:11:15] shame and gives us the courage to reach out to him. Just like we'll see this woman [00:11:20] do. And it's Hebrews four 16. It says, let us then approach God's throne of grace [00:11:25] with confidence so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us [00:11:30] in our time of need.

That's what she did. She approached Jesus himself [00:11:35] and she had confidence. If I just do this. I will be healed. 

[00:11:39] Valerie: Yeah. [00:11:40] I have come to that verse so many times in my life and not only [00:11:45] in desperate situations of wanting an answer, but in my sin, right? Like [00:11:50] sin can make us feel so ashamed, but God is saying, come, come to [00:11:55] my throne of grace.

and forgiveness and mercy, and you will [00:12:00] find what you need. And if we look at the verse right above that Hebrews four [00:12:05] 15, it says this, we do not have a high priest. And that's [00:12:10] referring to Jesus who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we [00:12:15] have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are yet did not sin.[00:12:20]

What I love about. Reading those verses together is that we can take [00:12:25] comfort in knowing that Jesus understands. [00:12:30] Denise, I just recently have been watching The Chosen and then my daughter and I just saw the [00:12:35] first ever Jesus movie completely in ASL for the deaf [00:12:40] community. And I was just reminded again of watching Jesus suffer, [00:12:45] right?

And being in the garden and asking, God, father, take this cup of [00:12:50] suffering from me and watching him be whipped and beaten and taken to the cross. [00:12:55] Jesus knows suffering like this woman, even in [00:13:00] isolation and desperation. We know we have. A God that [00:13:05]understands. Mark 5, 27 through 29, when she heard about Jesus, she [00:13:10] came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak because she thought, here's that faith [00:13:15] again, if I just touch his clothes, I will be healed.

And [00:13:20] immediately her bleeding stopped and she felt in her body that [00:13:25] she was freed from her suffering. Can you imagine how she felt [00:13:30] after 12 years. 

[00:13:32] Denisha: Well, it's the definition of reclaimed, [00:13:35] right? She was rescued and restored, rescued from an undesirable state, [00:13:40] which was the state of bleeding for 12 years and restored to health.

So [00:13:45] this was the moment that her story was 

[00:13:46] Valerie: reclaimed. Yeah. Amen. Yes. [00:13:50] And her healing was the beginning of a new story. But I [00:13:55] love this part of the story that she could have just slipped away, right? You know how [00:14:00] many times, right? We just want the results. Okay. Thank you. I'm good. She could have just slipped [00:14:05] away.

I'm healed. She noticed something completely different and like go about her life. But you [00:14:10]guys, Jesus wanted more. to give her a new [00:14:15] identity. You see the scripture, right? We call her the bleeding woman for a [00:14:20] reason. Scripture does not mention her name. You know, in your Bible, if you read the headings before [00:14:25] different paragraphs, it says story of the bleeding woman.

And I don't know about you, Daneisha. I don't think I [00:14:30] would want to be known by that. And you know, that speaks to how we can [00:14:35] relate, right? That sometimes we allow Our past to define us. [00:14:40] It is so true. And to think about how, you know, she was defined all those years [00:14:45] by that. And isn't that true ladies that we can feel like sometimes [00:14:50] our past defines us.

So this is what I love. Jesus felt [00:14:55] power. Go from him. And he started asking, well, who touched me? [00:15:00] I love his disciples. Lord, everybody's touching you. You're in a crowd, [00:15:05] Jesus. Come on. What do you mean? Who touched you? But he asked, he said, no, [00:15:10] somebody touched me. He is such a relational God. He wanted [00:15:15] relationship with this woman.

He wanted her to know. That she belonged [00:15:20] and she came out trembling. I mean, I could imagine here. Jesus says who [00:15:25] touched me and she's like, uh, what, you know what now? And so [00:15:30] she came trembling at his feet and fear and told him who she [00:15:35] was. And this is what he says to her. He says, daughter, your [00:15:40] faith has healed you go in peace and be freed from [00:15:45] suffering.

Did you guys catch that? He called her daughter. [00:15:50] He gives her a new name. She goes from From being [00:15:55] alone to being seen and loved and [00:16:00] known, Denisha. She went from a woman isolated to a woman belonging [00:16:05] to the family of God. 

[00:16:07] Denisha: I love that. I love that identity [00:16:10] change in daughter. That's just so much. That's so [00:16:15] beautiful.

In those moments to her story became her [00:16:20] strength. Now she could testify of what he's done in her life. Her story [00:16:25] became her strength. That's so good. Yeah. Valerie circling back to your story, as you [00:16:30] mentioned, like all those years of health challenges. Yeah. How did you experience God's [00:16:35] healing and reclaiming work in your life?

How did your story become your strength? 

[00:16:39] Valerie: Yeah. [00:16:40] Well, sometimes I think we can maybe get a little discouraged, right? Reading these stories. It's like, [00:16:45] wow, her healing was immediate. And I'm sure she continued to [00:16:50] heal just even joining back into society. But. [00:16:55] Healing's not always immediate. And it wasn't for me.

My physical healing wasn't instantaneous. [00:17:00] This is a lesson in itself. There was such a journey for me of learning to trust [00:17:05] God in the waiting. And, you know, my health did improve. I'm [00:17:10] so much different and better than I was during those 10 years. But you know, what happened in that [00:17:15] waiting is that God exposed areas of healing that [00:17:20] I wasn't even aware of that I needed.

You know, I was so focused on the [00:17:25] physical symptoms, but honestly, what ended up happening is a lot of those [00:17:30] physical symptoms were related to emotional wounds and spiritual wounds. [00:17:35] I needed emotional and spiritual healing. And I experienced a [00:17:40]closeness with God and dependence on God that I would have [00:17:45] never experienced if it wasn't for those challenges.

And so, you know, just like [00:17:50] we've talked about that, our stories are unique. You know, our path to healing is unique and that's what [00:17:55] God showed me. And now how my story has become my strength [00:18:00] is that I am able to connect with so many more women [00:18:05]now. in desperate places and desperate stories and say, [00:18:10] I know what that's like.

I know what it's like to sit and wait for God to [00:18:15] answer, to sit and wait for God to heal, to sit and wait for God to show [00:18:20] you Himself and to show you that He is with you. And so that's [00:18:25] many ways how my story has become my strength, is that I now am able to help other women [00:18:30] turn their pain into purpose and help them see that their story can [00:18:35]become their strength.

So it's pretty amazing. 

[00:18:37] Denisha: And I think that's so rewarding. [00:18:40] I love the work that we get to do here and all because of [00:18:45] Jesus that just like this daughter of the King, right? She gets to share her [00:18:50] story and she went through the hard times. Her waiting was 12 years and 30 miles. [00:18:55] That's pretty intense. You know, last month we talked about reading our [00:19:00] Bibles.

And we talked about kind of discerning, like, what do we learn about God and ourselves from the [00:19:05] story that we've just read? And how can we learn about faith and how God sees [00:19:10]us? And how can that encourage us in our stories? It was kind of part of the seven questions that [00:19:15] Keith taught us last month. So let's break this down.

What are three [00:19:20] significant things that we can take away from this story? 

[00:19:23] Valerie: Yeah, I think [00:19:25] one, is reach out to Jesus. You know, I [00:19:30] think when we are in those desperate places, it's so easy to just [00:19:35] stay in isolation, right? And to not have that courage [00:19:40] just to reach out to Jesus. You know, Denise, he is our source of healing.[00:19:45]

He is. And I'm not saying that, you know, God uses doctors and medicines and all [00:19:50] sorts of things to help us. But ultimately Jesus is our source of [00:19:55] healing, whether it be physical, emotional, spiritual, relational, he is our [00:20:00] source. And so you see that in the story that this woman [00:20:05] reached out to Jesus. And that's where she found transformation.

[00:20:10] That's where she found healing. So I think we can take that out of that story that in our most [00:20:15] desperate times to remember, like our Hebrews verse talks about, we [00:20:20] can approach God with confidence because he is not going to meet us with [00:20:25] judgment. He's not going to meet us with, I told you so. He's not going to meet us with, where [00:20:30] have you been?

I've been waiting. He meets us with compassion. And [00:20:35] he responds to us. He's a relational God. And what I [00:20:40] love, right? He just didn't heal the woman and let her walk away. He called [00:20:45] her forward. He called her to himself and he gave her a new [00:20:50] identity. So reach out to Jesus. What I love is that Jesus can [00:20:55] do a lot.

And I think that [00:21:00] leads us to the second thing is that God responds [00:21:05] to faith, whether it is a little or a lot, whether you're just [00:21:10] able to touch the hem of his robe, he responds [00:21:15] to our faith. And I think just kind of piggybacking on [00:21:20] how Jesus doesn't just heal her. He calls her to himself. [00:21:25] Be reminded that you are not your struggle.

[00:21:28] Denisha: Amen. 

[00:21:29] Valerie: It does not [00:21:30] define you. Don't let it cause shame because [00:21:35]Jesus is the one that defines us. You are already his daughter, his son, you [00:21:40] are his child and your struggle. Does not define you. [00:21:45] And I think thirdly, just knowing that, that our [00:21:50] identity is secure in Christ. So again, like reaching out to Jesus, [00:21:55] knowing that you don't need to be afraid that he is your source of healing.[00:22:00]

And that he responds to your faith and that part of [00:22:05] that response is him telling you and assuring you [00:22:10] that you are his, that you are his daughter, that you are his child and that your [00:22:15] identity is secure. And I think, you know, with every passage we read in the [00:22:20]Bible, with every story we can respond to it.

And your response may look [00:22:25] different than mine, but when you're struggling with whatever it may be. [00:22:30] Ask yourself, what would it look like in this moment to reach out to Jesus? And you [00:22:35] know, Denisha, part of the beauty of being a body of Christ is that [00:22:40] reaching out to Jesus may just mean like connecting with a healing group, right?

Connecting with a [00:22:45] life group, you know, connecting with the body of Christ in some way. And [00:22:50] to say, I need help. Can you help me with this? Can you help me walk through [00:22:55] this? So responding by reaching out to [00:23:00] Jesus, taking that risk, having that courage, knowing that even if [00:23:05] you're struggling with doubt, right, I've always loved that scripture that like [00:23:10] Jesus, we have little faith, increase our faith, right?

You know, like Jesus [00:23:15] will, like, I don't think we always think to ask for that, but Jesus will give us more faith. [00:23:20] You know, the loaves and fishes, right? He takes that little bit of faith and he can multiply it. [00:23:25]

[00:23:25] Denisha: You know, sometimes we come to the end of ourselves and there's nothing left but [00:23:30] faith. And that's kind of a beautiful place to be because Jesus came to [00:23:35] rescue and restore.

So just like the circumstances of your story, [00:23:40] right, is unique, the path of healing that God has you on to reclaim your [00:23:45] story is unique as well, friends. And you can trust that the plans and purpose that he has [00:23:50] for you is good. And for his glory, you are in a good [00:23:55]story. So we want to leave you with a question today.

What part of your [00:24:00] story has Jesus reclaimed or what part of your story is he in [00:24:05]the process of reclaiming? Thanks for listening. I pray you found hope [00:24:10] in today's conversation and maybe even feel a little less alone in your story. [00:24:15] Stay connected with us on Facebook and Instagram at Reclaimed Story. [00:24:20] Want to learn more about living a reclaimed life and how you can be a part of our growing [00:24:25] community of reclaimers?

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